I’ve had a fair few conversations with people these past few weeks and time and time again this very question has come up: what do you want to do with your life?
If you had asked me this question when I was young I would have told you that I wanted to become a primary school teacher; if you had asked me in year 7/8 I would have said a lawyer; if you had asked me in year 10 I would have said an accountant or financial advisor; year 11 I would have said a doctor; last week I said a primary school teacher and now I’ve come to like the idea of a doctor again!
Is it bad to constantly change your mind? Does it make me inferior to others who know? How am I supposed to know exactly what I want to do for the rest of my now?
The real answer is that you don’t have to know. You can be uncertain and unsure if you want. Not everyone knows what they want to do and we should not judge them based upon that fact. If you want to become a teacher, that’s great! A plumber? That’s also great! A bin-man? Brilliant! A writer? Fantastic! You have no idea? You are not alone!!
There are people in their thirties that do not know what to do next, they’ve tried something and now want a change. We spend our entire lives worrying about not wanting to pursue the path that we had to choose when we were sixteen that we forget to live and explore the amazing world we live in. I truly understand how hard it must be trying to decide how to spend your 80+ years on earth. It is okay for you to change your mind, change your job, change your life-style; everything you do should be about making you happy (to an extent as you cannot murder someone just because it will make you happy).
Hume said that our ‘self’ is not a constant factor so we therefore change all the time. This just goes to show that we do grow as people, we do make different decisions that our past selves would never have made. And all of that is okay. That’s all we have to remember.
I think that overall you should remember that even if you don’t know what to do now, maybe you will in a week, or a month, or a year. Time doesn’t make a difference, it doesn’t slow you down nor does it stop you from pursuing what you love. As I said before if you do know what you want then that’s amazing and I hope that you reach your goal, but if you are absolutely clueless then that’s cool too!
I feel like at this point in my life I am constantly asking myself if I can change, sometimes I think the change will be good and other times bad, but remember: change isn’t defined by the person you are now, it is the person you become afterwards that is important.